In wanting ourselves to be a certain way, to fit a certain idea, we turn ourselves into objects, which is hating ourselves.
Hating is a process of division—strife. We only understand desire in relationship to objects.
Self-compassion turns ourselves into subjects, because we then want to share ourselves as sincere stories.
Loving is a process of integration—union. To be the subject is to be oriented with all objects outside of us, to be free of taboo, to share what we love.